Ethics of Love Magic – Is it OK to Perform
Love spells. They’re one of the things that often drawsnew folks to Wicca and Pagan religions. However, there’s a lot of questionwithin the Pagan community about the ethics of on someone else. Afterall, if you’re performing magic on someone without their knowledge, aren’t youmessing with their free will?
Most Wiccans will tell you that the best way to approachlove magic is to avoid focusing on a specific individual as a target. Instead,use your energy and skills to focus on yourself — to draw love your way, or tohelp you present yourself as a person worthy of love. You could use yourmagical abilities to feel more confident and attractive, much like a magicalmakeover. In other words, fix yourself, not someone else.
Bear in mind that many Pagan traditions have norestrictions on the use of magic to change someone else. If you’re part of sucha tradition, the use of love magic may well be within the boundaries of . Insome traditions of folk magic, love magic is perfectly acceptable. It’ssomething that’s done as a matter of course, and is no more unethical thanwearing a sexy perfume or a cute push-up bra. Magic is viewed as a tool, andcan be used in tandem with the mundane to bring you what you want — after all,if you didn’t want to change things, you wouldn’t be doing magic in the firstplace, right?
Before casting any sort of working that affects anotherperson, though, be sure to think about consequences. How will your actionsaffect not only you, but other people? Will it ultimately cause harm? Will itcause someone to be hurt, either directly or indirectly? These are all thingsthat should be evaluated before performing any working at all, whether it’s alove spell or some other type of magic. If your tradition or belief systemprohibits you from performing magic on someone without their consent orknowledge, then you’d be better of skipping the love magic, and focusinginstead on self-improvement and self-empowerment.
Rather than aiming a love spell at someone and expectingthem to become your devoted servant and doormat, consider looking at lovespells as a method of (a) getting someone to notice you AND (b) getting theperson to, once they’ve noticed you, find all the things about you that theylike. If you maintain this perspective, you should be able to work love magicand still keep within your ethical boundaries.