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(Date Posted:07/14/2017 7:31 PM)
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"Hot July brings cooling showers,
apricots and gillyflowers."
Sarah Coleridge- Pretty Lessons in Verse





July Birthstone

Ruby

July Flowers

Larkspur or Water Lily

 


Meaning of July flowers

Good Luck, Laughter, Levity, Lightness,

and Open Heart


July Zodiac Signs
Cancer (the crab)
June 21- July 22
Leo (the lion)
July 23 - August 22





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RE:WELCOME TO JULY CHAT
(Date Posted:07/01/2017 8:38 AM)


HAPPY CANADA DAY!


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(Sorry.  I overlaid "Oh Canada" with our own American version in the next post)


So much to say, so little time.  So much going on for everyone.  
I have read your posts and I hate that you are sick, and that you still have to keep watch over your mom.  I pray she will be ok so that you can be ok.

I fear once I start talking about Me, I won't stop, so I won't start ~~ for now. 
Know that I am with you and I love you.  I'm just not going to try to start posting daily yet.
Mary Ann will take me for an Echo Cardiogram and then to meet again with the Nurse'Practitioner on Thursday, and then she flies back to Wisconsin on Friday.  I could use prayers for a better than expected Echo report.  I can't believe how much she'has done for me and how much I have needed her, even though I really didn't think I did need anyone.  I can't believe she will have stayed so long!   I'm both surprised and more grateful than I can say

She spent yesterday with Robert and Lucy at the Botanical Gardens.  It was about the only coolish day we will have for a while, and it was so good for her to get out and do things with them.   She hasn't left this house except to run errands or go for a morning walk since she got here.   I think she is going to get together with her other aunt, Alice's sister and her cousin, on Wednesday and that will be good too.

Today is Robert's Birthday and he is coming over after he drops Lucy off at her mom's and before he goes out with his friends to celebrate, and I will take him out to lunch.   This is his first birthday since his mom died, and I know that can be hard.

Mike's sister and brother-in-law, Marianne and Bill will come on Saturday, the 15th, and stay for a week.  During that week, Laine will come for a few days so we can all be together.  I think they planned it to be over my birthday, though no one has said so.   Marianne mentioned rescheduling a Dr appt.   It will be good to have them here after a week by myself.

I'm still mostly numb, with little bursts of anxiety and a funny empty feeling, like I haven't eaten for a week.  Strange.  Then those feelings go away.   Neighbors stop in and Mary Ann is here.  I suspect when everyone stops coming and Mary Ann goes home, ~~~~ well, I won't think about that today.  I'll think about that tomorrow (thus speaks Katy Scarlett O'Hara.   Ha)




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(Date Posted:07/04/2017 7:47 AM)


 

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Happy Fourth of July!

The Annual Block Party is right across the street in front of our house, but Sue and John who live next door to the party aren't going this year because she is recovering from surgery.   They have asked Mary Ann and me to come a bit before the party starts and join them.   I feel guilty about bypassing the party because everyone has been so nice, and because I didn't throw them a party when Mike died, but we are opting to join Sue and John instead.    I think if I attended everyone would want to offer condolences and I would become the focus of the party rather than the celebration of our Nation and of friendship.   That's my excuse, and I'm sticking to it, and I will hope my neighbors don't think badly of me.   

Yesterday Carolyn (Tom's wife) and her new husband came on their way back to Omaha and stayed to visit for about an hour.   It was good seeing her and meeting him..     Then Mary Ann and I took our coffee out to have on the porch and another neighbor came by with a lovely vase full of flowers.    I had only talked to her briefly from time to time, and I really enjoyed getting to know her and visiting.

Then Mary Ann's other aunt (also a Mary Ann) and her daughter picked her up to take her to lunch.   It was a bit strange.   She is Alice's sister and while we hadn't seen each other in years we used to be able to enjoy each other.   This time it seemed a bit strained with Mary Ann, though I did enjoy her daughter.   They left for lunch but were back in an hour, which surprised me.

Then another neighbor, a nurse who also has Parkinson's called and asked if she could come over.   I was glad to be able to talk to her ~ and she brought chocolate chip cookies.  ;-)

Mary Ann made my favorite Pasta Salad for dessert, and had about a two hour conversation on the phone with Robert.   He really is hurting from the loss of his mom, and so is Mary Ann from the loss of her sister, but I think she might have enjoyed a shorter conversation if he hadn't needed her.  ;-)

And so went my day. 

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HAPPY FOURTH!

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(Date Posted:07/05/2017 5:32 PM)



I HOPE THIS WORKS OUT.  I AM SO SORRY THAT I AM SO ILL AND NOT THERE FOR YOU.  I AM OVER THE TEMP AND ALL THAT BUT I AM SO TIRED AND COULD SLEEP AROUND THE CLOCK.  THINGS ARE JUST NOT GOING ALL THAT WELL.  MY SISTERS ARE JUST NOT GETTING IT.  I AM DEEPLY DEPRESSED AND AM SO SICK OM MY MOMS WHINING AND CRYING AND MAKING MESSES.  I YELLED AT HER THE OTHER DAY AND TOLD HER TO GET THE HELL OUT OF THE KITCHEN.  IT DOES NOT MATTER THAT I AM DOSING WITH MY CPAP AND SHE GOES TO THE KITCHEN AND YELLS FOR ME TO COME HELP AND MEANWHILE SHE DROPS THINGS ALL OVER THE FLOOR AND LEAVES TRASH ALL OVER.  I HAVE TO CLEAN UP BEFORE I CAN EVEN START SUPPER.  I AM GOING TO EXPLODE.  NOW YOU WILL WISH I HAS NOT BEEN HERE.  LOVE YOU MY SISTER!  HUGS, LOU ANN



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I'm so sorry things are going so badly for you.    Bad enough to be sick, but to have to be the complete caregiver for someone else is just too much, no matter how much you want to.   I wish I could help some way, but right now I can't even help myself.

Mary Ann left this morning.  My neighbor Jake drove her to the airport.   How will I ever repay so many people for all they have done for me?     When she said she was coming I told her she didn't need to, and I really meant it.  There wasn't going to be a funeral or memorial service (much to my neighbor's shock and awe) so nothing to come for, and I was ok.   I really thought that was true.   It wasn't.    The first week she was here I was in a complete fog.   I couldn't even answer questions about where things were or how to do different things.  I depended on Mike so much.   She took care of me as if I were a child, cooking, cleaning, taking me places I needed to go.   The brain fog seems to be lifting somewhat ~~ until I encounter something else Mike took care of and I haven't a clue how to do it.  How could I have let myself become so vulnerable and dependent?

After Mike died, I was urged by an ICD nurse in my Cardiologist's office to see the Nurse Practitioner because I was and had been retaining a lot of fluid and I had issues with shortness of breath.   The timing wasn't right of course, but I made the appointment and went in.   She gave me the impression that "the end was near" (laugh).   I certainly don't have a death  wish, nor am I afraid of death, but I went into panic mode thinking I wouldn't have time enough to straighten everything out that I needed to for those left behind.   I move slowly, and I was really afraid that I was going to leave a mess for others to deal with ~ when I exited in two or three weeks.  (lol)


The other option was one of those things that I fear the most, heart valve surgery where they use those words "Crack the chest".   Seriously, could anything sound more terrible?!  I know your mom has gone through this and I know people who have experienced this had had a long recovery, and sometimes didn't extend their life anyway.   This would have been unbearably hard for me if Mike were here to see me through it.   Without him, impossible.


My last EchoCardiogram was a year ago, and I wasn't due for another one until next year, but the NP scheduled one for me for yesterday and I feared the results and the decisions I might have to make without Mike.    I recruited prayers because when I can't feel anything when I pray for myself, I know God listens to those praying for me.  


The results couldn't have been better!   The Echo showed no real change from last years, so no surgery indicated.   I still have the swelling and perhaps a bit less shortness of breath, so we are changing some of my meds and I will keep a record and report to her.   I can't begin to tell you how much better I feel about hopefully being able to not leave things in a mess for others to deal with.    I'm still trying to get into Mike's Chase accounts and do things for him.     I'm completely dead in the water on some of them.   I have his credit cards and I can charge things, but all I want to do is pay his bills, and I can't do that.   I spent a couple of hours talking with different branches and they offer no help at all.   I know he has things automatically billed but I can't get there to see what is happening, or even if there has been fraud.  Sooo frustrating.    


Enough.   I'm not going to die within the month like the NP made both Mary Ann and me feel last week (LOL), and I will get through this.    I just wish I could help you in some way.    Hang in there.  We will make it through this.


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I WROTE A NOTE AND THEN POOF IT WAS GONE.

I QUIT, YOU ARE NOT MISSING ANYTHING.  I HAVE NOTHING GOOD TO SAY.

OH WAIT, MY BROTHER AND HIS FAMILY ARE COMING HOME THE 19TH AND WE

GET THE 20, 21 AND 22 AND THEY LEAVE SUNDAY MORNING.  I THINK IT HAS BEEN

5 YEARS SINCE I HAVE SEEN THEM.  NOT THAT THE BOYS HAVE ANY INTEREST IN ME.

THEY CANNOT WAIT TO SEE THEIR AUNT DIDI SINCE SHE SPOILS THEM ROTTEN.

BUT I AM HAPPY FOR THE CHANCE TO SEE THEN.

LOVE YOU MY DEAR FRIEND.

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(Date Posted:07/08/2017 8:51 AM)




Good Morning my very dear sisters.

I'm so sorry I haven't been here regularly.  I know you understand, and I have been in and read your posts even if I haven't responded.    Mary Ann has been here and neighbors have been dropping in, and I haven't been able to concentrate.

Mary Ann left yesterday morning very early.   Our wonderful neighbor Jake drove her to the airport.   He offered and Mary Ann accepted.   I wouldn't have been able to, I'd have sent her in a cab, but now I'm glad she did.   She had returned a vase to him and come in and visited with him when they made the arrangements.   In all the time we've lived here, we haven't been in each other's homes.    Mary Ann fits in with my neighbors better than Mike and I.  ;-)

I hadn't slept well Thursday night and felt ill in the morning, but I made myself get up and get busy rather than continuing to just sit there, and I got quite a bit done, including some things I probably should have done a week earlier ~ reporting Mike's death to Century Link (current retirement company) and confirming with Social Security that the Funeral home had let them know of Mike's death.   They had, and she set up a telephone appointment for me for next Thursday to discuss future benefits (the big $255 Death Benefit, and increasing my SS to reflect Mike's higher payments).  I'll have to mail them my marriage license and the death certificate, but they promise to send it back.  Easier than having Marianne and Bill take me to the office and wait who knows how long with me.   I also confirmed that the payment he received a week after his death was ok and I wouldn't have to return it, and he should receive no further payments.   I did several other small things in that vein and three loads of laundry and finished Marianne's birthday card and got it in our mail box.

Oh, and I FINALLY got into Mike's Chase accounts and paid his bill that was due.  The other account's bill isn't due until the 25th.   I could see there were no fraudulent charges and what things are automatically charged to Chase.   Now I'll have to try to figure out how to transfer those to me, so I can cancel his accounts ~~ but not today.

I have started the ball rolling on getting our roof replaced due to hail damage.  Something else I so didn't want to have to handle alone especially right now, but I will.

The N.P. had both Mary Ann and me convinced that The End Was Nigh ~ lol.   I think I would have been ok with that but for leaving everything in such a mess for others to have to clean up.   I am blown away by the way Mary Ann has stepped up and I think her family will as well.  They are very close, but I am not "there" and don't have the same relationship, so really didn't expect anyone to be here for me nearly as much.  Besides the fact that Alice has done everything she possibly could to separate me from her daughters and their families for years.

Marianne and Bill are coming next Saturday and will stay for a week.   I hope they won't be too bored.  I think it's good for us to have some time together to remember and mourn Mike, and I know they want to help me as much as they can, but other than clean out the basement storage areas, I can't see what they can do.   Sending them to the basement storage areas would be rather like inviting them to swim in the shark tank ~ except that in addition I would be so embarrassed for them to see it.  ha.   I fear Bill especially will be really bored and feel he is wasting his time.  I really don't know what to do.    Laine will come the Tuesday after they get her and stay through Thursday, so we will all be together.  I'm not sure, but I think they may have planned it to be over my birthday, and if so, how genuinely sweet of them.    Marianne's birthday is this Friday, but they never made as big a deal of it as Mike and I did.

Mary Ann and Benji planned a trip to Santa Fe in September and were going to stay here a couple of days enroute.  Now they may extend their stay on the way back, possibly.

Then Mary Ann and Katie and Jack had already planned to visit in October, so I will have lots of company.

Oooooh, TMI again.   I talk about Me way too much lately.

How nice that your brother is coming.  I hope you do get to spend a little time with him and his family!

I hope you are feeling a bit better today.

Love,



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Good Morning 

I didn't sleep as well last night, but I did sleep so I won't complain ~ yet.   I've been awake since a little after 4, and got a few things online done.

Yesterday I made the bones of 8 Thank You cards.  I need that many more, and I need the insides 'made' as well as the outsides, then I need to write notes of thanks and mail them    I haven't even returned several phone calls yet, but little by little, I'm getting there..   I'm also discovering more and more things I need to do..

Mary Ann had the delayed birthday party for the kids at her place yesterday.   She must have been exhausted, but the pictures were delightful.   They celebrated Jack's 5th Birthday, Lily's 1st birthday and Vince's UN-Birthday.   It looks like the kids loved everything we sent them (it was "we" at the time we sent them).    They had an Egg Hunt, Firewroks and Snowcomes along with  the Birthday Party.    While she was here, she "discovered" Grand Marnier and Fried Pickles that she hadn't had before and loved both.  When Benji fixed Snow Cones for the kids (of all ages), she showed a picture of her bottle of Grand Marnier.  LOL

In the late afternoon, Marianne and Bill called and we talked for an hour.  I have been concerned that they would be bored when they are here.  I know they want to help do anything I need, but I have so many little and big things I need to do, I don't know where to start.   I do want to donate Mike's clothes and things, but other things are more pressing to me.   As they talked, I could see we are basically on the same page, and they are willing to help me with some of the legal and financial issues that I am concerned with.  I know we need as a family to remember and celebrate and mourn Mike together.  I need help with other things too.  Bill really wants to ride with me when I try to remember how to drive (I'm not exaggerating by much).   Mary Ann did too, but we didn't get around to it.   I just want someone to drive me, but since that's not going to happen, I'd better get comfortable with driving again myself, at least a little.   I'm so lucky everyone is willing to give me so much time.


We're in the 90s again today, and the plants look sad.  lol   I did water the heck out of the dahlias yesterday, so I'd better NOT do it again today.  The new Mock Orange looks like it's gasping it's last, but I think it will be ok next year.

The Mortuary gave me a list of things that might need to be done, and while I've done several I'm discovering more and more things I need to do  ~ like getting his name off the titles to the house and cars and things.   Now if I can find the deed to the house and to the Lincoln.   Only the deed to the Chrysler was in the Safe Deposit Box!   Each thing creates 10 other things I need to do.   I guess I don't have to worry about getting bored, but I'd like to just sit and read for a while.   Maybe next month, huh?     

The Insurance adjustor is coming on Tuesday to look at the roof, and the contractor will meet her here..   Decisions to make there as well..  Mike was very proud of the brown roof tiles we have that others do not, so I won't consider any change in color.   He as also talking about getting High Impact rather than "regular" shingles, so I need to consider that too, and find out what discounts I might get on my premium if I do.

I don't really understand Power of Attorney as well as I would like, but I do need that done, too.  Mary Ann was quite concerned that if something happened to me the hospital wouldn't even be able to tell her without it.  I'm pretty sure I have her convinced not to "stick me in a home" unless it is completely unavoidable (and maybe not even then ~ lol) so I THINK I can trust her with that power.   Marianne knows a lot about financial and legal things, so I will talk about those with her.   I think I goofed when I put her on part of my Belco Accounts.  I wanted someone to have access to money if it were necessary, but i didn't think about the fact that if I were to add Marianne and Bill as well, she would have to sign now to agree to that..   My little brain will explode.

And again, I'm all me, Me, ME!   Sorry!

Hope things are going a bit better for you today.

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I HAVE READ BOTH YOUR POSTS AND I THINK

IT LOOKS LIKE YOU WILL HAVE YOUR HANDS FULL

FOR QUITE SOME TIME TO COME.  I AM SURE IT

NEVER ENDS.  I HAVE TOLD MY FAMILY THEY DO NOT

HAVE EVERYTHING RIGHT FOR BEING ABLE TO USE 

MOMS ACCOUNTS AFTER SHE IS GONE.  BUT NO

ONE LISTENS TO ME.  I THINK THAT THERE WILL BE

THINGS TO DEAL WITH FOR A LONG TIME TO COME 

YET.  I THINK THAT SITTING BACK, CLEARING YOUR

HEAD AND READING A BOOK IS A GREAT IDEA.  YOU

NEED THAT.

I AM HAVING TROUBLE DEALING WITH THINGS AND I

BROKE DOWN AND TOLD DIANE SOME OF IT THE 

OTHER DAY.  BUT SHE REALLY DID NOT GET THE 

JIST OF WHAT WAS REALLY BOTHERING ME, SO IT

STAYS BOTTLED UP UNTIL THE NEXT TIME.  I STILL

AM NOT FEELING WELL IN THE EVENINGS.  NO CLUE

WHAT THAT COULD MEAN.

I LOVE YOU MY DEAR SISTER AND AM SO IMPRESSED

WITH YOU AND ALL YOU ARE DEALING WITH.

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Good Evening

I slept until 7:15 this morning!   I'd best not do that tomorrow morning because I have the Roofing folks coming at 8:30!   Neighbor Karen said she would come over for Moral Support ~ which I can surely use, and after they leave she is going to try to cut Shogun's claws.  If that doesn't work I'll have to take him to the Vet  (no small task when I'm not driving yet and it isn't just around the corner)

Yesterday was long and only semi-productive, but around noon a neighbor I don't know well called and asked if I'd had lunch.  I almost never eat lunch so I said no, and she said she wanted to bring a lunch to me.  I let her ~ see? I am getting "better".    She brought chicken, stuffing, corn on the cob and pineapple slices for dessert ~ a real Sunday dinner!   It was delicious and I had half left for tonight!  We visited a short while but we don't really know each other and it was a bit awkward, but what a nice thing for her to do.

I did get some Thank You Cards made and written.  Not much or many, but it's a start.  When Mary Ann was here she went to the post office and bought me two books of stamps ~ and I can't find them!  I've looked everywhere ~ twice!   She gave me a book about death and one of the examples of things that happen is things going missing and then "turning up"..  Examples told of people who looked in the place where "It" always was, and it wasn't there, then they looked in a dozen other places and back to the first place and couldn't find "it".  then later, there it would be right where they looked at first.   That happened with my Chase card.  I looked in my billfold and 84 different other places, went through my billfold again and it just wasn't there.   I thought I was going to have to call and cancel it.   Then Mary Ann checked my billfold, and thee it was!   I told her she had to come back and find my stamps!   I can order more online but it will take a while to get them, and of course they are more expensive ~ or I could drive to the Post Office ~ but I just can't yet.  aarrgghh.

After I had dinner, Alice from next door called and said Jake made strawberry short cake, and did I want him to bring some over for me!  He did and we had a visit and I have strawberry shortcake!

Tomorrow morning early the Roofer and Insurance Adjuster are coming, and after they leave Karen is going to come over and see if she can cut Shogun's claws.  They are lethal!   Shogun apparently now hates any man whose name isn't Mike.  He hissed and growled and made Mountain Lion faces at Robert when he was here, so that possible source of help is gone.   I've never tried cutting his claws myself and I'm nervous about holding him and cutting them.  I hope I can do it because driving to the Vet will be a problem for me too.   Everything's problematic now.

Anyway, I won't stop in in the morning.  Hopefully later.

I hate what you are going through now, and I hate that I really am not there for you.  I'm so all about me.  I'm overwhelmed, and not being a friend at all.   I do care and I pray for you, but I wish I were here more to just talk and let you talk.  You're in my heart if not in my head, dear sister.

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Good Morning! 

Sorry I didn't post yesterday.  It was quite a day and I was exhausted.  Even worse, I woke up at 3AM today and wasn't able to get back to sleep.   That does not bode well for today.

Up, dressed, house straightened before 8:30 yesterday.  My neighbor Karen came over for "moral support" and the Roofing Contractor and Insurance Claims Adjuster came and went to play on the roof.  They came down around 9:30.  It was only 80 degrees, and they were both drenched.   Brett, the Roofing Salesman is a cute kid originally from Wisconsin. He and Mary Ann had hit it off well.   Ashleigh, the Claims Adjuster, is a lovely young black woman from Texas.  We all spent as much time visiting as "working".   From Karen I learned that she and several other neighbors are going with the High Impact shingles, so I'm leaning that way.  They will be more expensice but i will check with my Insurance Agent today and see what discount I might expect on my policy if I put them on.   

In the afternoon, Ashleigh came by with the first of two checks and some paperwork, and we visited again.   Brett will do the work for what State Farm pays, so I will only be out my $1000 deductible unless I opt for the High Impact Shingles.  The gutters and downspout need to be replaced and some painting done, and Brett (God love him) will oversee all of that for me.   He's coming back on Friday afternoon with some samples so we can try to match the original shingles Mike picked out for us.   Karen volunteered her husband Mark to help us look because she says he is very good with color picking.   I'll take all the help I can get!

I was shocked at the amount the Adjuster is giving me for the work.  Replacing the roof and gutters and a little touch up painting on the trim and porch railing costs more than my first House!

After everyone left, Karen tried to cut Shogun's claws but he was obnoxious and wouldn't let me hold him, much less let her trim his claws.   She checked with her Vet and got the name of a Mobil Pet Grooming service that might come out and trim his claws for me, so I will call them today.  He's so wild now with the idea of being held that I can't imagine how we will do it, but they're the Pro's.  I'll explain the situation and see if they want to tackle it.   At this point in time I don't care what they charge!  We need help!

Last night I finally found the two books of stamps Mary Ann had bought for me!  Did I tell you about this?   When I looked for the stamps, they were no where to be found ~ I mean NO where!  I looked over and over again in any reasonable place I could have put them and found nothing.   Mary Ann gave me a book on death and it listed misplacing things and looking everywhere for them multiple times and not finding them as one of the impacts of grief.  Then you glance at the first place you had looked, multiplle times, and there "it" would be.  Well, they still weren't "there", they were in the most unlikely place imaginable, but I found them!  Whew!

Other than all the visiting and calling State Farm to get Mike's name off the policy so the emails would come to me instead of to him, I got pretty much nothing else done, and I was exhausted and the most upset I have been.  I saw that Mary Ann had called me so I called her back and unloaded ~~ and as I told her what had been going on, I realized that for the most part it was good, not bad, and I began to relax.  I guess I just needed to blather to someone.  Ha.    If I'd been able to sleep last night, today might be a better day.    I suppose I have to be up and dressed in case someone drops in, though I'd much rather just go back to bed.

I thought of something else I was going to tell you, but it just left the building.  Ack.

I hope, but don't count on, that things are going better for you.




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Have a Happy Day!

Today I have a Telephone Meeting with Social Security at 11:30.   I called them before and confirmed that they had been notified, and that the SS payment Mike received on the  28th didn't have to be returned and it was likely no more would come.   She then set up this appointment with someone to talk about Benefits ~ the big $255 death payment, and increasing my SS benefits based on what Mike's were.  Since I will lose his benefits, it will help though I don't expect a very large increase.

Other than that, nothing planned.   I mailed most of the Thank You cards I had made yesterday.  Still a few more to make and send.   

I need to do a load of laundry and to revise my lists of things done and things to do and see what I need to do next.

I sent a blathering email to Marianne and Bill last night, talking about what I had done and what I hadn't done and that i was concerned about what to feed them and being a good hostess to them.   Of course after I sent it, I thought I shouldn't have and how stupid it must have sounded.   This morning I got the sweetest email from Bill, so encouraging and supportive and I felt much better.   He made it clear that they were not coming to be entertained, and that we had entertained them well in the past.   I knew that, but I guess I needed to 'hear' it.   I'm all over the place.

I know the neighbors will stop coming, and the family will go home and resume their own lives.  That's how it should be.   I seem to be good during the day, and even at night, but the emptiness and loneliness come in the late afternoon and early evening.   I will find some way to divert that, but not this week.   It will be better when Marianne and Bill are here, and then I'll figure something out.   I hope.

I always held Shogun and Mike clipped his claws.   Shogun has always hated being held, I think it makes him feel vulnerable, so he didn't like my holding him either but he tolerated it while Mike did his claws.    I tried to hold him for Robert to do his claws and again for Karen, and he hissed and growled and looked like he would bite (he never has) and with those gash hooks he has now, he could and would have scratched me just trying to get away.     His aversion to being forceably head is why we were allowed to adopt him from the Show Ring.   His color and confirmation would have let him Grand easily, but he wouldn't tolerate being held so we got him at a bargain price.

The Groomer is going to charge $20 to trim Shogun's claws.  I doubt the Vet would charge less.  At this point I'll just be grateful if she can do it!   He has really been awful about this since Mike left.

Again, I hope things are going better with you.

Love you to bits.


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I REALLY AM HERE BUT I WILL TALK TO YOU IN THE MORNING.

RIGHT NOW I AM HAVING 2 MUCH TROUBLE BREATHING AND COUGHING.

I LOVE YOU AND FEEL YOU!

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Prayers please.   i have been a living example of "if anything can go wrong it will" for the last few days.   Ultimately things are working out, but nothing has been easy.   

On Friday (tomorrow?  today??) Shauna changed her hours to come in later because her daughter is getting out of her college Summer School early.   She's in H.S. taking an honors course.   Soooo, I had to reschedule the roofer.   It may work better in the long term, but tomorrow morning I will need to select the perfect tile to match the ones Mike picked and loved as closely as possible.   Hard to do when Mike's is on the roof and the ones to choose from are in the living room.   Brett may get on the roof and lay them out so I can see, but with the sun changing how things look, I don't know how I'll be sure.   I really want this to be right.

Then Shauna comes.

Then the Groomer comes, while she is still here.   I'm guessing Shogun will be upset by all that is going on, and he has been horrid to everyone trying to cut his claws already.   I need to have this done so badly.

Please pray that things start to work out.   I'll come back on Saturday and try to catch you up on me.

I'm so sorry you are sick on top of everything else, and so sorry I'm so me, Me ME right now when you need me and others to focus on you for a while.   I will pray for you too. 

Love you.

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SINCE SHOGUN LIKES SHAUNA, MAYBE SHE CAN HOLD HIM AND HAVE HER SIT IN MIKES CHAIR 

SO THAT SHOGUN WILL FEEL HIS PRESENCE.  MAYBE THEN HE WILL BE GOOD AND ALLOW HIS 

NAILS TO BE CUT.  I USED TO ALWAYS DO NOVIAS BUT SHE NEVER LIKED IT.  I USED TO HAVE 

TO HUNT HER DOWN.  THEN I WOULD SIT ON MY BED, LAY HER DOWN AND PLACE A TOWEL 

OVER HER AND ONE OF MY LEGS.  I DID THEM AS QUICKLY AS I COULD THEN LET HER GO AND 

BE MAD AT ME,  NEVER LASTED LONG LOL

I LOVE YOU AND HOPE AND PRAY IT GOES WELL.

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Well, isn't this special.   Apparently Photobucket now wants you to pay $400 (a year?) to use the tiles saved in Photobucket for "Third Party Hosting", in other words to make our borders. Well, isn't that special?   I'm not even going to try to deal with it now. :-(

Yesterday was a terrible day.  Taking a deep breath and thinking about it, nothing was really terribly wrong, except the way I handled it.  I was so tired I just wanted to cry, but I didn't have time to even do that.  

Roofer came in the mid morning with the High Impact Roofing tiles. and we talked about pricing and how things would go.   He's such a sweet kid, from Wisconsin..   He showed me how good the Insurance Adjustor, Ashleigh, had been to me ~ barely discounting anything, and paying for many things I don't think I would have noticed (some paint, some deck rails, etc).   Brett will oversee the removal of the old roof, clean up, new roof and clean up of that, and also the replacement and painting of the gutters and down spouts.   There will be money left over from the insurance to take care of the painting and fixing ~ if I wish..  Since I'm sure I will have to repaint the house in a few years, I may just tuck the money away and hold it for that.   

Next was selecting the tile color.   Neighbors Karen and her husband Mark came over and looked with me..   On the roof, I definitely liked one better than the other.  It was a bit darker and brighter, but looked like a good match to me, looking up at the roof from ground level.   I had Brett take pictures of the tiles against our actual roof so I could see what he saw from there, and I was shocked at how much better the one I didn't like as well matched, and how maybe the one I liked was too dark.,   Still, looking at the roof with the tiles laid out there from the street . . . .   

Mark liked the darker one I liked too, and so I chose that.  I think maybe Mike would have chosen that one too, but now of course I'm having second and third and fourth thoughts that I should have chosen the one that was a better match..  Our existing roof is a bit brighter, but basically the same color ~ though I wouldn't have guessed that.   I probably screwed up ~ again.

The one on the left is the one that matches best, the one in the middle is the one I liked best from looking at it from the ground, and the one I selected and probably shouldn't have.   The one on the right really didn't match.

  


While they were all still here, Shauna came.  God bless her, she is so good, but yesterday she was talking non-stop and I was on overload.  I just wanted to go and curl up somewhere.  I was sooo tired.   She was here until nearly 4:30 but she got the house cleaned and the Guest Suite, too, and the bed down there made with the sheets I had washed and the towels taken down.   I should go down and check things out myself, but I don't want to.  (laugh)   I'm sure it's fine.

While she was still here, the Mobile Pet Grooming Lady came.  Very colorful gal (multi colored hair, tatoos, etc) and really nice.   She got down on the floor and gave Shogun some cat nip and he loved it and was really getting along fine with her ~~~ until she held him to cut his claws.   Then the Cat From Hell came out, hissing, growling, hiding, snarling.   She couldn't get close to him again.   She left, saying she would come back after her next appointment and try again.   I didn't hold out much hope, and when she didn't come back I contacted the Vet's office to see if they might do it even though their Web site doesn't list claw cutting.   They will do it, and I made an appointment to take him in on Monday at 11.  I'm hoping Bill or Marianne will take me.

Later the Groomer, Sherry, called back and said her van had broken down and she was waiting for someone to come and get it started,  and that the next house she went to had an old chow, badly matted and while she was there his owner fell and broke her leg!  She had to wait with her for the ambulance and for someone to take the dog!    I guess I didn't really have such a bad day after all.  lol

Several other little things popped up demanding to be done, and again I was so tired.   It really wasn't such a bad day, but it felt like it to me.   I'm just not used to so many people who aren't Mike, and so much unrelenting responsibility.   LOL

I'm thinking of getting one of those Amazon Prime/Sprouts Grocery 2 hour deliveries today to stock in some basics for Marianne and Bill.  They keep saying we'll figure out the groceries and eating plan when they get here, but they won't get here until about 6PM and if we have to shop or carry out or something then, we're going to be eating pretty late, and I still may not have anything they want for breakfast.  I really haven't wanted to go out, but I'm sure I will.  It would just be good not to have to all the time.   Mike was so good at this, and I am not.



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